Not Your Child

Not long ago, I was going through some items that were “keepsakes” I had from our children.  In my quiet time I thought back to a heart to heart with my mom.  It was about our children, one in general.  I had gotten to a point where I had to come to terms with the fact that they were growing up and that they were going to be called to make their own decisions in their walk here.  I was weary of the path that their choices could take them.   I can remember my mother’s response clear as day.  She said “So why is what you think any better for them??? Do you know that this is not the than plan of the Most High???”  Devastated, I looked up and said “What do you mean???”  She boldly told me “He is not your child, none of them are.  He has only been given to you by the Father for you to teach His instruction to them for now.  It is his (their) responsibility to use what you all have poured into him by following in the Father.  All that you can do is walk in truth to show him (them) that if he chooses the other route Abba will chastise him.”  She hugged me and said “I know that hurts, but the Most High alone knows our hearts and whose are His, so IF He wants him then He will make it so.”  Being a parent here is an experience granted to some that we have to walk out and it is an awesome responsibility .This truth was one of the hardest things I had to face; I knew without doubt that all that she said was true.  So in that moment I had to decide was I going to get in Abbas’ way or let go!!!!  Mind you this is no easy decision, and as much as it hurt, I let go because it was up to him to decide for himself what he wanted.  I let him know that this decision was his and he had to choose right now!!!! Thankfully it was the truth of the word and it was not right away.  Yes….. that chastising we spoke of happened.   We had to watch, but it had to be so!!!! Why???  If you don't let go your child is your idol and they will destroy everything around them in their rebellion.    Yes…. It is your responsibility to fill them with the Father's instruction.   Yes….We have to live out His will before them, but they have to do the same to be counted as His child.  So ask yourself do you know better than the Most High??? 

This question requires honesty because our inability or our ability to do so speaks to our trust in the Father.  Our ability to do so says that come what may we are His and if we are unable to do so then we know where we need to grow to be His.  Yes …..This means those that we are allowed to bring into this world.   In our studies we learn that we are a portal, a vessel that the Most High uses you to bring forth His creation.  So that His will here is done!!!  So as His creation what does it say about whom you belong to if you usurp what He is going to do anyway?   Furthermore your disobedience will be dealt with too, because your choice to get in the way is rebellion.  We know that Abba knew us before we were formed in our mother’s womb, as in Jeremiah 1:5 "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, And before you were born I consecrated you; I have appointed you a prophet to the nations."  So If they are His, they will be called to Him.   For you this means whether you understand or you don’t the word of the Most High makes it clear!!!!!  Does that mean that I didn’t struggle in walking through this test ….NO!!!  Actually right smack dab, in the middle of it I had to deal with what if he doesn’t make it???  Also with you know that Abba formed “your child”, so isn’t it arrogant of you to assume that He needs our help???  In submission you will understand “Our children” are not “Ours” but they belong to the Most High and they are for Him to do as He wills.   Just as we are created to do what He has ordained as long as He deems it so, the same applies to them?  All we are to do to move as His redeemed that is tasked by Him to pour into them the word and the truth of what a glorious daddy we have.

Think of the sisters before us that had to let go of "their" child so the Father could use them to show the world His magnificence.  We have Jochebed letting go of Moshe.......we have Hannah letting go of Samuel......and Miriam letting go of our mighty Savior so that the all could be redeemed for our sins, IF we are the Father’s.  Could His mother have empowered Him to have done this????  Too often we put ourselves in situations with our children out of fear of the consequences that we know will befall them.  If we are honest though and believe the word we know that the only way for them to be whom they are called to be is to proven by the trials.  This means that even if the Most High has to crush them that we stay out of the way and offer the word to them to guide them.  Consider our trials, did anyone try to pull us out of the flames and get singed doing so???  To no avail because ultimately we had to be consumed by Abbas’ raging fire to be made pure in Him.   When we are called to move in the Most High we will be challenged to see if we will compromise!!!!  Not being able to let go of anyone shows who holds our heart and who's we are!!!!!  Does your relationship steal time that you need to be using to grow in the Most High???  Are you moving in the Father to discern what is before you or in your emotions???? Where is it in scripture that we are to do what is outside of the father’s will??? We know that there are many experiences by our elders in the word that highlight that we are to move in His instruction!!! 

IF they are unwilling to move as instructed then believe they have made their choice and will walk  in Jeremiah 9:13-15 that says And the Most High saith, Because they have forsaken my law which

I set before them, and have not obeyed my voice, neither walked therein; But have walked  walked after the imagination of their own heart, and after Baalim, which their fathers taught them: Therefore thus saith the Most High of hosts(YHWH Sabaoth), the God of Israel; Behold, I will feed them, even this people, with wormwood, and give them water of gall to drink. 

This is what they have chosen.   Now you have to make yours and you will move as the “blessed spoken of in Psalm 1:1 Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.  No one comes before the Most High…….So what's it going to be???? 

Our Love Letter on the Matter Says:

Matthew 10:35 -36
For I have come to turn 'A man against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. A man's enemies will be the members of his own household.'

Matthew 10:21
Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child; children will rise against their parents and have them put to death.

Mark 13:12 Now the brother shall betray the brother to death, and the father the son; and children shall rise up against their parents, and shall cause them to be put to death.

Luke 12:53 The father shall be divided against the son, and the son against the father; the mother against the daughter, and the daughter against the mother; the mother in law against her daughter in law, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.