Socks and Toothpaste…… Not again!!!!

In Christianity we are taught that being a good wife has no requirements.   That we are equal to the man, that life is essentially because of woman and that the husband is the help meet too.  There is no delineation or order if the Most High taught.  Just a pimp playing on the emotions of the women in the congregation, and for those that are married selling that the luxuries of the world in our marriages and lives show that we are blessed.  It is no wonder so many marriages end in divorce because this  is taught every Sunday.  This was my warped sense of reality and who I was before understanding my purpose in our marriage.  In truth it is just the opposite because our husbands (house band its biblical origin) have to go out in this fallen world to provide.  When I would get all riled up about the toothpaste, the laundry or whatever; I seldom stopped to see things through his eyes.  All he had to fight to bring food through that door and all that is needed to maintain the home is done at a cost.  I had to seek Abba to revamp the independent woman thing taught so I could understand that there is something quite beautiful in being a help meet.  This revelation did not just come over night and  this humbling was not easy.  Yes!!!  I had to be crushed because my thoughts were haughty and not in the Fathers order.  This was truly jarring, because by the world's standards I was all that and a bag of chips.  Yet to the Most High there was no sweet savor and His proving fire ensued.  It burned up the old me and I am so thankful because that chick was a mess.  The fullness of peace that has been given by the grace and mercy of the Most High is worth every bit of this fight. I am so glad to be allowed to see things as Abba intended!!!!!

As women the world tells us daily that doing what we feel is our right and OK.  This is where we have to be separate because our truth tells us that this mindset is rebellion and of the same usurping spirit that was in our mother Eve.  The wonderful NEWS is that there can be marital bliss if Abba is first in our marriages.

1 Peter 3:1-8 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;² While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.³ Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;⁴ But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.⁵ For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:⁶ Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.⁷ Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.⁸ Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:

This will require us living as a set apart people as we are called to be and that we don't resemble what the world's decree is on marriage.  Yes this means not to ask to fix him prayer and that when you go before Abba we have examined self to ensure we are in order.  We have to look at the sisters before us so that we can discern the choices that come our way and come to understand that we were never told to the magnitude of all they had to experience intentionally. Take comfort and be encouraged knowing that while the fiery darts are coming, he has peace knowing that you are going out of your way to care for your home that Abba has provided for you all.   Know that when you are one in the laws of the Most High in every way it shows appreciation and nourishes him with the light of the Father in you.  This love pours over on the family as a whole. You are His blessed daughter and a righteous walk allows Him to shine in you.   So when he comes through the door there is peace because you have chosen to maintain order in the home.  There are no piles of socks in the floor and the toothpaste cap has been put back on without spite.  You do not look like a bear because your face is not twisted up. There is no deceit from your heart slowly poisoning your thoughts because you are not angry and there is no guile.

Wisdom of Sirach 25:16 (GNT)
¹⁶ I would rather live in the same house with a lion or a dragon than with a bad wife. ¹⁷ When a wife is in a bad mood, her expression changes until she looks like an angry bear. ¹⁸ Her husband has to go and eat with the neighbors, where he can't hold back his bitter sighs.

Your Ish.....your brother fights to protect the peace you have been given in Abba's home daily.  Know that if he is truly a servant of the Most High he too will be tested.  We have to understand that he has to have peace to move as His servant.  So provide this solitude because this is the only place where they can fully relax and enjoy it without having to be guarded.  In the Father's love we can move as required so they are free to provide and guard the home.  Honor them by not sowing discord and by seeking Abba on how to provide.   As the chosen children of the Most High the ultimate goal for them and for us as redeemed daughters is to be sure that He is glorified.  Our brother's walk displays this magnitude and is always seen by on lookers.  They are always being watched because of the fruit they bare.  So take care of them, for their walk is a witness, just as it was with our elders!!! 

Sisters, let the energy coming from you be of the Father's peace. Know that you are appreciated even when it isn't said.  Is he there? Does his fruit bear the works of the Most High???? Answer honestly and then look at yourself because if you are upset about socks, what's wrong with you?  How does this look??? What savor are you sending up???  You will find a new kind of joy showing that you appreciate being covered in every way by a MAN who is ordered and walking in Abba's love like his brother.  No riff raff will be allowed at the greatest feast to ever be held and your crown waits if you His daughter are a true servant who will not shy away from truth and will display who our Ancient of days is!!!!  #devotionals